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Thursday, December 09, 2010


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I love this post, Arwen. And, of course, the angels ARE as real as the chair you're sitting on. We are praying for you and the twins every day. I am so excited for you.

Continued blessings and peace to you, my friend. You and your family members, great and small, are in my prayers.

Beautiful post, Arwen. You're right - God won't guarantee you a healthy pregnancy, but he'll stand right there with you the entire time.

I told Dave that you were expecting identical twins, and here was his response: "Oh! That's the best kind!"

I laughed and laughed and laughed. It seemed like such a bizarre response coming from him.

I really like this, Arwen. Your fears are real, but so is your faith, and your writing style is charming. Thanks for sharing. Is it horribly mean to say I was relieved to find out I'm not having twins?!

So glad to hear all is well with you! So exciting - identical twins! Good luck with all the eating. I wish I could do some of your eating for you. :)

Congratulations, Arwen! I know firsthand how scary it can be, but also what a blessing identical twins are, no matter what the outcome.

Such a beautiful piece of writing, Arwen. I talk to Amelia every day and ask her to watch over her little cousins and her baby sister while they are with her. I know she's a little one but she can do it ! At least that's what I tell her. You are all in our prayers. Love you Aunt Nancy

I was expecting much more randomness after reading your tweet - but instead I read a blog piece with a beautiful message at its heart, and your heart laid out for others to see as well. I pray you will continue to rest in His peace and protection, and that you continue to know that He is surrouding you throughout your life.


But dude, that is A LOT of food. I don't even know if I'm supposed to be eating that much more (I don't think I am...), but I must say, I've been really taking advantage of pregnancy, eating Nacho Cheese Doritos and cookies and everything else I wouldn't normally have.

So glad you're getting out of the nausea haze! Now you can enjoy Doritos and cookies and everything with actual satisfaction!

Arwen, I cannot tell you how happy I am for you in this pregnancy and how hard I am praying for you. I know you can do this! And I know you know you can do it too and am so happy to read about your experience from Adoration. I had to laugh when you talked about twittering this is why: A friend just gave birth to her first son in September and at one point in her pregnancy had some bloody stool (sorry TMI) and she called her OB who got her in within the hour but told her on the phone not to google it! I've actually heard a lot of doctor's and other health care professionals having to give out this warning these days. Praying for beautiful, healthy babies!

If you can stomach it, put protein powder in smoothies and shakes. You need protein and fat more than sugar.

The oldie but goodie from St. Francis de Sales has helped me through more than one high risk pregnancy.

"Do not fear what may happen tomorrow. The same loving Father who cares for you today will care for you tomorrow and everyday. Either he will shield you from suffering or He will give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace then and put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginings."

The babies sharing my son's alcove in the NICU were twins with TTTTS. One was about 5 lbs, the other 3. Amazing how red the bigger one was, from all the extra blood. They were fine. Feeder/growers no problems. Alexander and Maximus and yes, Maximus was the little guy. My full term singleton was in WAY worse shape than either of those two.

Since the newborn stage isn't your favorite, think of it this way. This time you are getting double the child with only one newborn period!

Do you read Jen at Maybe If You Just Relax? ( She's pregnant with identical twins right now and it sounds like you two have a lot of the same stuff going on. She had a TTTS scare, which ended up being a cord attachment issue instead. Everything is still going well, she's somewhere past 28 weeks now, I think? Anyway, she's hilarious so you should read just for that reason.

Identical babies!!! Of course, those ARE "more special" ; )

Do you have any gender inklings? As soon as you said brain immediately filled in " girls".

Seconding the person who suggested protein powder. But try to get as much naturally soluble protein as possible. I'm not sure how much nutrition really affects TTTTS, but a friend of mine was pregnant with twins and her husband got diagnosed with an aggressive brain tumor when she was about fourteen weeks. Naturally her stress skyrocketed and the doctor spent the whole of her twenty week gender/anatomy scan chastising her about her poor weight gain and the fact that one placenta was starting to look markedly unhealthy.

The doctor told her to get a large bag of chicken breast tenders and poach them just until done. Then he said she needed to eat one every time she came into the kitchen! (and we're talking about someone with a toddler here, so...hell-oh) He said she should go through a bag every two days and that even though she'd feel like clucking after mere would be worth it. He encouraged her to view it as a chore to be done for "baby maintenance"-- completely set apart from her normal diet. He said to not even think about it...just cook them, put them in the fridge, and 8-10 times a day, down one of those suckers.

It sounds unorthodox to the point of silliness, but within a month she had gone from a dismal seven pound weight gain to almost fifteen...and the placental issues evened out nicely by twenty five weeks.

I only mention all of this because she was so like you- that rare pregnant woman whose body stubbornly refuses to join the weight gain free for all that most women experience (often to the point of unhappiness) after that first trimester. She was also the mother of a toddler who had been a VERY (veryveryvery) high needs infant, and the idea of TWO newborns at once overwhelmed her. Of course, grace was there for her, too...and I'm happy to say that she had THE most languid, tranquil, sleep-prone babies I've ever seen.

So, point chicken! Lots and lots of chicken!

Beautiful post, Arwen! I love your outlook.

Maybe you should just start cooking through The Pioneer Woman's archive? That would definitely keep the calories a comin'. ;-)

So glad to hear that you and the twins are doing well, and I will continue to pray for an uneventful pregnancy for all three of you! Google is, indeed, a double-edged sword. When I was diagnosed with excess amniotic fluid with my second child (a boring singleton), I tried to do some research via Google, and as I kept reading about all the "possibilities", I got incredibly worried about what could be wrong with the baby or go wrong in the two weeks before my induction. Thankfully, he turned out just fine.

This was a beautiful post. I'm praying for you and am so excited about your twin blessings. They don't keep you bored! I was wanted to say I wanted to link to this post, if you don't mind. I'll take it down if you don't. You said something so profound, and something I've wanted to describe to friends about my faith in God when so many things in this world seem wrong and something He could "fix" and "doesn't".

I'll check back tomorrow. Blessings, and thank you for sharing your insight.

Much love!

Wonderful post! My sister has 30-month-old twin boys (although not identical) and, like you, she already had a boy and girl (although a little older than yours).

She had a relatively uneventful pregnancy (with the extra screenings of course) and vaginally delivered both at almost 38 weeks!

It is amazing to me (still) how well she just stepped into it. She read lots of books and talked to other moms of twins ahead of time. She does say that a twin nursing pillow is a must for breastfeeding!

God bless you all and may you have a safe and healthy pregnancy!

Hi Arwen. I'm new to your blog and just wanted to say hi and congratulations on twins! Praying the best for you all.

It is hard. I remember thinking I wanted to be back to the time when I could be fretting because I was eating too much. With the twins, I usually had a smoothie for breakfast because I could put so much into it (protein powder, yogurt, milk, pumpkin, fruit), and chicken salad for lunch, and Paul wold make tacos or chicken for dinner, and ACK SO FULL. But I hope that's one of the reasons my pregnancy was so long and healthy---there's no way to know, of course, but I like to THINK of it that way!

Oh my! Congrats! Identical, yay! :) I believe it's hard, scary work. Eep! Praying!

Oh my goodness, this is crazy. And yes, I remember when this was an infertility blog as well :). We'll be praying for calmness and good health for all of you.

Thank you so much for this:
"And I get to choose whether I give in to the fear or invite the angels to surround me and protect my peace and the babies' lives"

Reminding me that I have the choice of what I feel and experience within God's mercies. Sometimes it's too easy to forget how much He protects us - if we let Him.

I love when you write about your trust in God's grace. This post actually reminds me of some of your writing from before you were pregnant with Camilla. Letting go of the fear and anxiety in hard times, inviting God to carry us... it can be so difficult to do. It's a gift to your readers that you invite us on the journey with you!

Dear Arwen, last time I read your blog Blaise was just a baby. Imagine my surprise and delight to find out you are expecting twins! God bless you and your beautiful, growing family. I will keep you and the twins in my prayers.

I just stumbled on your blog from a link at another blog! I am one half of an identical twin pair. :) I can only imagine how scary it can feel to carry twins. I have to say, though, that being an identical twin is amazing and an experience so few get to have. In my mom's situation (30 years ago), they actually had no clue she was pregnant with twins until Baby A (my sister) was born (vaginally). They had a total of 8 minutes to prepare for my arrival (also vaginally). Yep, our guardian angels were working hard! I pray things go smoothly for you and the babies... and congratulations!

This might raise your spirits:

A mom who carried twin girls to just shy of 39 weeks asked others to share similar tales. Lots of comments about healthy twin pregnancies.

Arwen ...

I've been listening to you on the podcast for a long time, as well as reading your posts on F&FL, but this is the first time I've stopped by your personal blog.

My identical twin boys are now 2.5 .... gosh, that time has flown by! Reading your posts about your pregnancy brings back so many memories for me .... so much worry for me during those days. I didn't have any pregnancy complications (went on modified bed rest at 35 weeks, and the boys were born at 37w, 5 days, both over 6lbs and healthy as could be), thank God.

I also recommend the Dr Barbara Luke book .... I focused on protein shakes (I pretended I was drinking a Frappacino), and ate eggs seriously 5 days a week. Water was huge for me as well .... if I didn't drink enough, I would have Braxton Hicks contractions like mad.

I used a iron supplement called Floradix - available in most health food stores, or Whole Foods. It's liquid, can be mixed in juice, and will NOT make you constipated.

Also, if you have time to read, the multiples forum at kept me SANE. They are an amazing group of women who will help support you through your entire pregnancy and beyond.

WHat a marvelous, marvelous blessing!

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