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Wednesday, January 10, 2007


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I've been reading your blog for awhile, I might of commented before. Hi :D

Hi, Arwen. Delurking to say I've really enjoyed your blog for the last several months.
Here is a dairy-free recipe for kind of cookie/candy. (And it is ridiculously easy to make, too.)
Crispy peanut squares
1 c sugar
1 c light corn syrup
1 c creamy peanut butter
1 tsp vanilla extract
6 cups rice cereal squares (Rice Chex)
1 c peanuts

Combine sugar,corn syrup, and peanut butter in a glass bowl; microwave on high for 4 minutes or until melted, stirring once. Stir in vanilla.
Fold in cereal and peanuts. Spread mixture into a lightly greased 13x9 inch pan. Cover and chill for one hour or until set; cut into small squares.

well, I'm not a lurker, am I? I think I comment a lot more here than I do on many blogs I read.

My fave sling ever has been my Maya Wrap. I used it from birth to still using it with almost 3 yo occasionally (hip carry if I use it now). Love it love it love it. Came with a handy dandy instructional video too, so I really love it.

I already had used an over the shoulder baby holder and while I liked it okay, I prefer my MW.

I liked the last baby pic too - photoblogging looks like fun.

I think I've commented before, but in the interested of de-lurking, here I am. Also, I am a great fan of ring slings and I think if you pull the fabric across your back more evenly, you might find she's not too heavy afterall. I was using my ring sling to give my 3 year-old safe piggy-back rides, so it's really more about positioning. Also, my first loved the Baby Bjorn and we wore her in it endlessly. I think there's a dvd out there to show you the multitude of ways you can sling your baby with a ring sling. Check out, I think they sell it there.

Hi. I'm Lucy. I don't have any kids yet, so no idea on the whole wrap/sling thing. I made some delious cookies this past weekend, but they have butter in them. Anyways, one day you will be able to eat dairy, and I suggest if you love chocolate as much as I do, that you try these yummy things. (

It's been long enough since I commented that I have reverted to lurker status, so hi! I had a Kozy Carrier, it's a double-shouldered mei tai but I think (and I may be wrong, it's been a while) that it's less structured than your Ergo. We used it when our baby was very small. I even managed to nurse him in it once, so I know it's possible. We used it as a front carrier when he was little, so that his belly was on our belly, and we'd roll up a receiving blanket for a bit of neck support. I say we because my husband enjoyed carrying him this way, too. It does have a bit of a learning curve but I love it. We can still use it now, but he's 25 lbs or so and I've actually been thinking about an Ergo because of the structure and ease of use. However, I do love my Kozy! Let me know if you want me to send you a picture. If we lived closer I'd let you borrow it!

Well, I'm not a lurker! But I will say I am excited to hear that Camilla is now in that size range you mentioned because maybe I will see a picture of her in something I sent! I would love that! :)

Also, our friends have the Baby Bjorn and really seem to love it. THe father has terrible back problems (involved in a plane crash when he was a teenager and compressed three vertebrae) and has no back injuries or issues. Their daughter is about 20lbs now.

Dairy free chocolate chip cookies are swell and can be made easily by substituting butter for butter-flavored crisco. (They actually taste BETTER this way). Just be careful when you buy the chips - some have milk/others don't.

I love our Peanut Shell sling. It still works great - even with Genoa weighing almost 20 pounds.

Hello and happy delurking week to you from Wisconsin -- where nothing is dairy-free, and most things are deep fried and served with beer.

I have nothing to say about babies or slings, but I just wanted to say hi and delurk. Also, I have no dairy-free cookies recipes. I guess I am not much help today!

Sort of delurking. :-) We have a Baby Bjorn, which I never did wear. My husband did, but carrying the J-man (approximately 19 lbs) was hurting his back for the duration of a grocery-shopping excursion so we abandoned it.

I had a ring-sling that I wore him in for a while but never got the hang of wearing him in it when he was bigger so it, too, has been abandoned (he did like sleeping in it when he was about a month old!). Now we have an Ergo (got it for Christmas!) but haven't tried it out yet.

I just got a recipe for oatmeal-chocolate chip cookies (healthy! increase milk production!) but haven't tried it out yet so I hesitate to post it just yet, in case it sucks. I plan on trying it this weekend though, or as soon as I get a box of cake-mix (main ingredient -- makes them easy, too!).

oooh! psychic connection!

Having no baby yet, I can only SAY that the Peanut Shell looks like my fave, simply because it looks EASY. Phillip might be all, "I'm not wearing that hippie baby pouch" and we'll have to get him a different one, but right now he's into the hard core plastic equipment so maybe not.

Hi Arwen!
Im delurking too! (whoosh!)I've been reading your blog for a long time now. Almost since you started it I think. Im a former Michigander, now living out in California. And I went to a Catholic college too out there, Aquinas College. I dont have any kids of my own so cant offer any assvice on that front. :P I am a chemist and thought I'd pass along the chemist's version of chocolate chip cookies!:

Hi. I've been reading for a long time, and have commented a couple of times, I think.

I've also wondered about slings and back pain. When my lower back is acting up, I can't even carry a small purse on a shoulder strap.

I know Dawn at this woman's work talked a lot about which slings might work with her back problems, but I think hers were upper back shoulder.

I'm eager to see what the other commenters know about slings and backs!

Well, I don't have kids and I'm a terrible baker (seriously terrible, I burn almost everything) so I guess I can't offer any advice, but I'll delurk anyway. I've been reading you for about six months now, so I guess it's about time I said hi!

Hi Arwen :). Just de-lurking to say I'm reading and enjoying your blog, that's all! As far as the baby carriers go, I loved the Bjorn, but I do wish I'd tried a sling....never did, and now the baby days are over! :)

Since I have neither child nor recipe, I'll just mention how beautiful Camilla is- her double-chinned grin gets me every time!

I've been reading since you were about 12 or 13 weeks, I think. I love your faithfulness and reading about your journey through Biblical eyes - it that makes sense.

A question - I read a few weeks ago (some link I found...anyway) that your siblings names aren't actually the names you call them on here...which makes sense. I always though it was odd that your name was so original and theirs were kind of "normal." (I love their blog names though.) But my question is...are Camilla and your nephew's names their real names on here? (I am assuming Camilla is.) Or do you use a pseudonym for them also?

Just curious. Not offended! :)

She's so beautiful!

I think I've commented before, but just in case -- de-lurking of a kind. I have a ten-month old son, and we use both a sling and an Ergo -- the Ergo for long journeys and the sling for short ones. He's 22 pounds or so now, and I also eventually got sore from the sling ... I'd say maybe try the Ergo without the insert? Or try a Baby Trekker? I have friends who love that one.

Great blog, thanks for writing!

Just delurking. I've been following your journey for a long time, and am thrilled that you have your daughter :)


WE LOVE LOVE LOVE the baby bjorn and so did the baby!

Hi Arwen!

We never really used a carrier. I have a ring sling that I occasionally use. We just usually carry him around in our arms. Not much help there am I? :)

De-lurking here, w/o carrier recommendations or dairy-free cookie recipes. I can't remember how I found you, I was so glad to find someone who wrote so much about God and faith while trying to conceive. I gobbled up your archives. (If you track your readers, I'm the Montgomery, IL person who read for HOURS last month - insert blushing, sheepish grin...)

Happy De-Lurk Week. :-)
I've never found a carrier that was perfect... my favorites were the Baby Bjorn and the Hip Hammock (original) but both started to hurt my back when my daughter got around 20 pounds. I tried the Sutemi for my 3 year old but no way does he want to be confined so that was a wash.

No children of my own, but have a recipe that I thoroughly enjoyed. Of course you'd have to like pumpkin. Oh and I am not a fan of raisins in cookies so I made some plain and some with chocolate chips.

Pumpkin Cookies
4 cups unsifted flour
2 cups oatmeal
2 teaspoons baking soda
2 teaspoons cinnamon
1 teaspoon salt
1 1/2 cups oil
1/2 cup white sugar
2 cups brown sugar
1 egg
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 1/2 cups canned pumpkin
1/2 cup nuts
1/2 cup raisins

Combine flour, oatmeal, spices, and salt. Set aside.
Cream oil, sugars, egg and vanilla on medium speed of mixer for 2 minutes.
Add 1/4 cup Libby's canned pumpkin and mix 1 minute more.
Add the remaining flour and pumpkin alternately. Stir in nuts and raisins.
Drop by rounded teaspoonfuls onto lightly greased sheet baking sheets.
Bake at 350F for 15-20 minutes or until firm and lightly browned.
Makes about 5 dozen cookies.
Unbaked dough can be frozen in air tight container. Thaw in refrigerator and bake
as directed.

I did freeze at least half of the dough and it worked just great!

Hi! I came across your blog about a week ago, it was on someone's list of favorites but I can't remember who. Your name caught my attention because I had a pen-pal named Arwen (from Canada) when I was in 3rd grade. Anyway, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the Baby Bjorn. My daughter is around 22 pounds now so I think we have graduated from it, but I did just use it on a trip last month and it still worked great even with her weight. I have never used a sling, probably because the Bjorn just worked for all of our baby carrying needs. One negative is that it is front carrying only - we need to get a Kelty-like carrier now that she is bigger.

Your little one is beautiful, I'll keep reading...

I'm delurking here. I found "alittlepregnant" when I was doing some research on infertility for my infant development class (I'm a college professor of child development). There's a link there to you, and somehow I ended up here. Your explanation of your reasons for not using ART were extremely enlightening, and I have to say that while I'm sure I garbled them, I was actually able to address that question when a student asked me about that position in class. Since then, I have found myself reading your blog occasionally. I think it's been good for me. As a pro-choice, extremely liberal professor of developmental and evolutionary psychology, I think maybe it helped me get rid of a few of my prejudices to read your blog and think, "well, gosh, she sounds like a pretty cool chick," even though our positions on many issues are so far apart. So anyways, thanks for some fun reading and darling pics, and the best to you and your family. Oh - and slings and carriers? Honestly, my 5 month old daughter just keeps getting fatter and fatter and I am now a HUGE fan of the umbrella stroller. The Bjorn, which was my favorite, is now gathering dust in the garage.

De-lurking to say hi, and that I began reading (regularly) since you were approximately 30 weeks pregnant. I really enjoy looking at the pictures of your beautiful baby girl.

I'm currently on Weight Watchers, so I don't want to think about cookies long enough to look up (and send) you a recipe; and my sons are ages 15 and 10, so no idea on the sling subject.

Happy Delurking Day!!

Look me up when you get a chance at

Love your blog. If you like chocolate I have a recipe for you. Buy a graham cracker pie crust, 16 oz of dark choc. and 20 oz of firm tofu. Melt the choc. in a sauce pan, blend tofu and melted choc in a blender until smooth, pour into pie crust and chill for 2+ hours. Wonderful choc cream pie without the dairy!!

I've commented a couple of times but not regularly. We started with a baby bjorn because slings were overwhelming. I bought a sling when my son was about 4 months old I believe. Looking back, I wish I had my unpadded ring sling from birth, especially since it would have been nice if I had known how to breasfeed in it during all those evenings of cluster feeding. The bjorn worked fine although the sling was kinder on my back. I bought an unpadded sling specifically because I'd read they're easier to use than a padded sling. They're more adjustable and less bulky. Eventually I got a Sutemi, very similar to the Ergo, and that was our go-to carrier until my back couldn't handle it anymore.


Hi also,

I too forget who I linked from...but I have a regular blogline roll I read and you are on it! (I am sure someway is linked back to "amalah") I have a one year old and another on the way in March. So, of course, I am here for the muffin. Plus, I LOVE muffins. It's fun being able to go through new babydom again when I don't have to do any of the work!

Delurking, here! I check in on your blog every day and have loved reading about your adventures with Camilla. She is adorable. I have a 19 month old son, and we used a sling and Baby Bjorn carrier with him (neither of which was pain-free, unfortunately), but I'm researching new possibilities for our next baby, due in early July. I've heard about the Moby wrap - anyone have experience with those?

Thanks, Arwen, for sharing yourself with us!

Just a lurker, no help on the carrier or on the cookie recipe...

Hi! Just delurking to say hello. I've enjoyed following your story.

FYI, the points you made way back when during the Great Contraception Blowup :) on my blog really changed the way I thought about the issue. I was so impressed with how well you articulated your points. I've always wanted to say thank you for that.

De-lurking to say, "Hi." (My favorite carries was simply my hip! ; ) )

I haven't been reading very regularly, but I check in from time to time. Is this delurking, then?

For my newborns, I use a Baby Bjorn almost exclusively in the early months. It gives some structure to those wobbly, floppy bodies and I found it to be the easiest to use. Also, the babes were so much happier in it than in my sling.

I also have a fleece pouch from Kangaroo Korner that I like, but it tends to be too warm in the warm weather. Still, it's especially nice (and comfortable!) to "just have along" in case you're out and the baby gets sick of the stroller. It works as a blanket, too!

I have a Kissasling that I LOVE, too, but it's discontinued, so I won't belabor the point.

After they get sturdy enough to hold their heads securely, I really love the Ergo and having the babes on my back. It's easiest for me and they are very content.

I'm definitely a lurker. I can't remember how I found you, but it was through a link on someone else's blog.

No advice on the sling dilemma---we used the Bjorn with success.

Your sweet baby is precious, and I love reading about life with her!

I've commented once or twice, but I'm mostly a lurker. No kids yet, so no advice on carriers, but I do have a great gingerbread cookie recipe:

1 c. Shortening
1 c. Sugar
1 Egg
1 c. Molasses
2 Tbsp Vinegar
5 c. Flour
1 1/2 tsp Soda
1/2 tsp Salt
2 tsp Ginger
1 tsp Cinnamon
1 tsp Cloves

Cream shortening and sugar. Stir in egg, molasses, and vinegar. Beat well. Sift dry ingredients and stir into molasses mixture. Chill dough before working. Bake at 350 for 8-10 minutes.

I usually roll the dough into walnut-sized balls. You certainly could use cutters or any other method that struck your fancy, but you may have to adjust the cooking time accordingly.

HI!! I'm de-lurking, recently found your blog and even read through all your archives to get the background. I can't recommend you on slings and since I'm at work no recipes on me at the moment! But Camilla is one gorgeous baby and you have a reader all the way from Australia!


Not really a lurker, though I don't comment as much as I'd like. I know nothing about carriers or slings, though. :-(

Delurking for the first time (sort of--I sent you an e-mail long ago) since I began reading in April of last year. We have a few things in common--consevative SAHM Catholic moms with new babies who graduated spring of '05 from small Catholic liberal arts schools--and I've enjoyed your blog. My son Maxwell will be four months old on the 15th. I have the Ultimate Baby Wrap, which is pretty good. If you wear it right, it can support a 20 lb. baby fairly well. However, it is hard to disentangle when you want to get it off, and it takes longer to put the baby in than, say, just slipping him in a sling. Good enough for forty bucks, though!

hi. Read for quite some time now. Linked over from somewhere when you were mentioned in a post there and have been reading ever since. Happy Delurking Week!

not really a lurker...but i'm reading more often than commenting.

i was a stroller and snap n go type of mommy...not really using a sling or a carrier...but that was just me :)

Hi Arwen,

I can't remember if I've ever commented before, but I have been reading your blog for a few years now. I am so happy for you both, and your baby girl is gorgeous! Here is a cookie recipe my friend gave me at Christmas. She lives in NYC and was recently in a play with Blythe Danner (Gwynnie's mom), and apparently this is her creation. I have no idea how they taste so if you make them, let me know how they turn out!

4 C. Barley Flour
3 C. Crushed Almonds (almost like flour)
1 C. Maple Syrup
1 C. Canola oil
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt (to taste)

Mix together, separate into balls, make thumbprints in each. Fill with your choice of sugarless jam. Cook for 20 minutes at 375 degrees.

Hi - I have been reading your blog for a long time and love it. Just now delurking. Don't have much time to read what others have written b/c my 6 week old is stirring from a nap, but I heartily recommend the Moby Wrap as a baby carrier. It takes a little bit of time to tie it on and get the baby in, but I am so much more comfortable carrying him in the Moby than the ring sling. I don't even think of going out with the ring sling - it's strictly limited to inside use at my house. With the Moby I can take long walks and feel comfortable.

THanks for writing!

You know, I never did find a good baby carrier for when my daughter was <4 mos. Mostly I moved her around in her carseat/stroller frame combo. I didn't need to wear her for her comfort, though, so I could get away with that. When she was 5 mos. old we bought our Ergo, and I've been beyond thrilled with it (every other carrier made my back miserable).

Hi there! I'm a 28-year-old writer in Los Angeles, love reading your blog, I love your positive attitude, it's really inspiring. Don't have kids yet, but I hope to in the next few years, and I've really enjoyed reading about your journey to motherhood.

Hi Arwen,

Just delurking since you called us all out! :) I've been reading your blog since right before you found out you were pregnant. Congrats on your baby girl Camilla....she is a doll! I had my own struggles with trying to conceive for over 2 years...had surgery on my uterus, and then finally ended up pregnant myself in May! I'm 35 weeks along now with TWIN BOYS! I love all your posts and look forward to checking for new ones. Congrats again and best of luck to you and your new family!
Warm Wishes,
P.S. I can totally relate to your "waking up in the middle of the night due to vomiting in your mouth" post. I'm very sad to report that is a FREQUENT occurrence of mine and it is the WORST! Sometimes I'm afraid to go to bed! *L* Please tell me in a reply or in a post that it hasn't happened since Camilla arrived!?!

Hi Arwen,

I am officially a lurker too. I have no idea how I first found you. I attribute that fact to the mommy brain...

I am also a former Michigander who has lived in Boston for 18 years. In addition I am a revert to the Faith and just became a mom of a very active son in Oct. 2005.

I so enjoy your are a beautiful writer...

Best of luck with the dairy free lots of Peanut Butter for those good fats.

Well, I don't have kids, and can't bake to save my life. But I will go ahead and delurk anyways -- so hi!

To answer Kim's question about pseudonyms: Camilla and Daniel are indeed the babies' real names. I use pseudonyms for my younger siblings only because my youngest sister's name is very unique (we think she might be the only person in the world who has it) and therefore very Googleable, and I thought it would be weird to use a pseudonym for her and no one else.

To answer Jenny's question: don't worry! The reflux disappeared after Camilla was born, although I still had it mildly for a week or so after her birth.

Hi, I've been lurking for a few years now. I live in Australia and have a 10 month old son through IVF. I read you while I was in the thick of infertility but during my pregnancy I lost touch with a lot of blogs. I refound you when you were pregnant and was so pleased for you and have loved hearing about your birth and gorgeous daughter. I love the happiness and warmth in your writing. All the best, Amy

Hi Arwen! I use a Hotsling for my 2 month old who weighs 14.5 lbs. He love love loves it and sometimes cries until I put him in there. It takes some learning to get it right but I have gone on long walks while pushing a 2 year old in a stroller without back pain. The trick is to be sure the fabric is evenly distributed and over the curve of your shoulder, not all bunched in by your neck. It is a very simple design and easy to use in a busy parking lot. Also the way it holds my son's legs close to his body gets all the gas out if he's fussy. I got it off of ebay for $40 and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Since I've had baby #2 I haven't had much time to bake (at all). But I really like the idea for the tofu chocolate pie. I am going to make it for my husband and let him eat it before I tell him what it is. He'll love it, then refuse to eat any more once he knows what it is.

I love your blog and wish I had more time to read your archives. Love that beautiful baby!

I've been reading for awhile but never commented. I didn't use a sling with previous children but just bought a New Native Carrier for the one coming in April. I've really enjoyed reading your journey as I am a relatively "young mom" as well.

I loved my Bjorn but it started to hurt my back and my throat (he starts to bang his head backwards.) I bought an Ultimate baby wrap (, but all the wrapping of the material around me is too much work. I just bought a New Native sling and so far I am just using it for hip carrying. He wants to be upright ALL THE TIME.

trying to remember your youngest sisters name now. I don't think it's the one I'm thinking of... always loved your family members names-so original.

Another Lucy- although that's what I use as an internet ID, since I have an extremely unique name. No cookie recipes handy, and no sling advice either. I've read your blog for about 18 months.


Delurking for your delurkers week (what a mouthful). Still waiting on my own little miracle. Dr has dignosed me with PCOS. Would love to hear from anyone who has experience coping with this.

Hi! I am, probably, several years away from children, but somehow I started reading infertility/ adoption blogs and couldn't stop. Anyways, I've been reading for quite awhile. Actually, you're on my blogroll, which feels slightly embarrassing now that I realize I've never even commented here. Oh well. I can relate to the sling problem thanks to a lot of babysitting experience. It felt like some days I could position the baby just right and my back would be fine, and other days I could feel it in my muscles even after I set him down. The ergo was a huge relief once he was big enough for it. So, that is my convoluted "hello." Thanks for writing!

Delurking! I'm looking forward to reading all the comments you get about baby carriers. I never did find one that worked with my first child (he turns 3 in a couple of weeks). He weighed 11 lbs at birth and experimenting with slings with a newborn the size of a 3 month old while recovering from a C-Section just wasn't working. I gave up that time, but am determined to find some sort of carrier that will work with my 2nd. He's due to be born in 6 weeks (eep!) and is likely to be gigantic just like his brother. If you hear of a carrier that EVERYONE says is designed for newborns but way too big, just let me know. It won't be too big for us.

Delurking here.
I used a fleece sling from Kangaroo Korner and loved it - but you need to live in a cool climate for it to feel good. The baby (even down to a newborn) felt so secure and it was good on my back. The website is and I found them a good source of info on all things slings (and not too pushy about their own brand). Good luck!

Another delurker delurking to say hi! I don't have a kid (yet), but wanted to say hello and beautiful baby! Camilla is adorable.

I'm Julie, and I love cute baby pictures. :) And you write such funny, adorable captions for them too. I swear I'm not a total creep.

I've been lurking for a long time. I can't say much about slings but I can say that you've given me courage and hope -- and made me laugh -- as I wait for my own little miracle. Happy delurking week!

I'm de-lurking...LOVE your blog, you write beautifully and your sweet spirit and strong faith shine through your words.

I found you indirectly through another blog - someone mentioned your journey through infertility - and we are on a similar journey now, but trusting God and not doubting His goodness to us. I'm so glad you were blessed with your dear and precious girl!


I can't say no to you asking us lurkers to come out! You write too well to say no. I'm a young wife (22) who hopes to start a family in the next year and I enjoy hearing about your story. I started reading your blog just after you found out you were with child, and I can't imagine the journey you had to get there.
I also have to say that the comment above by the college professor Gabi was very cool.
I want to use slings someday, so I'm stealing all of the information people are sharing with you, but I have none to contribute.
Alway enjoy your writing!

I'm getting to be less of a lurker these days. When I had my first (and second, since they are twins) I used Baby Bjorns - one on me and one of somebody else (my hubby or mom) since they were tiny and stayed very small, it worked out well. I found that the sling I had borrowed really bothered my neck (I've got a slipped disk) and only used it once before returning it. With my baby (ok, she's two now) I used the Bjorn again and then a Playtex toddler carrier when she hit the 15lb mark.

Stop by and visit me sometime

Hi! I think I've commented once or twice. I have been using a wrap with my son since he was 4 months old. I started with a stretchy wrap made by a WAHM and now I use a woven wrap. Wraps are the MOST COMFORTABLE baby carrier. I have quite a few pics that I could email if you are interested. My son weighs 25 pounds and when he is in the wrap the weight is so evenly distributed that my back and shoulders never hurt. Wraps do take a little practice but I think they are well worth it. They can be used for a long time too. I'm a little biased towards wraps obviously, but whatever works, ya know? :)

Hi! I stumbled upon your blog over a year ago when I was a few months pregnant and doing way too much internet research about anything and everything pregnancy related. I think I Googled something related to infertility?? I had my son in March '06 (we didn't find out what we were having beforehand was so great!) and was so busy for those first few months that I forgot to read for a while. I was so happy for you when I checked back over the summer and learned of your pregnancy! And I've been a regular lurker (sounds so creepy! yuck!) ever since. I lurk no more! Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful little sweetie!
OK...slings...We have a Bjorn and I did use it quite a bit, but I honestly think it is highly over rated...and overpriced. I discovered the Hotsling ( a few months ago and love it! I just wish I would have found it sooner. It is so simple to's great. My guy is about 20 lbs now and it is only comfy for short periods of time. He is moving up the the backpack. I will use the Hotsling with the next one from the beginning. Good luck in your sling-search!

I post fairly regularly, but I guess I'm just posting to say that I still read? And uhm, I think you're awesome and I love you? I don't know what else to say. Except that for some reason I just realised that you live in Michigan and it never dawned on me. I live in Indiana (well, part-time anyway - I was born & raised here and my heart is here), so I'm kind of your neighbour in a non-blogging sense. I'm just babbling now and sounding stupid. I should probably go to sleep.

baby carriers-- I've owned 5-- the Hug A Bub is best by far, though expensive. It will work all the way up till toddler age. I have also heard really good things about the Ergo.

Mary, mom to 8

baby carriers-- I've owned 5-- the Hug A Bub is best by far, though expensive. It will work all the way up till toddler age. I have also heard really good things about the Ergo.

Mary, mom to 8



Hi Arwen!

No kiddies, so no sling advice. Also, no cookie recipes but I do have a really good dairy free chocolate cake recipe if you're into it.

Hello! I'm not really a lurker, but not a very regular commenter either. I've no children and can't think of any cookie recipes off the top of my head, but hello anyway.

Delurking here. I started reading your blog back when I was battling fertility issues myself (up until like, 7 weeks ago!). I went back and read your archives from those difficult days and I could relate in many ways. Now I get to use your blog for smart pregnancy and baby advice like slings!

Hi from Israel. I started reading your blog after a miscarriage, and it really helped me to see how hard you worked to stay positive and keep faith, issues I was struggling with myself. I don't have kids yet, but am pregnant again (healthy, yay), so I've been thinking about what slings to buy. All the women in my husband's family use those long stretchy pieces of cloth, which seem to provide a lot of flexibility. I've used it with my niece when she was under a year, and even on long walks I thought it was very comfortable...but then, she was/ is really tiny.

Anyway, Arwen, love your writing, and seeing pictures of your delicious daughter makes me so happy for you.

I've been reading for a long while now and have probably commented once or twice.

Neither of my children liked to be "worn". They squirmed and fussed as soon as they were put in any type of sling or carrier. They always wanted to be looking around, they're nosy that way. It was too bad because they were both HUGE kids. My son was 24 lbs at 4 months and it would have been really nice to be able to wear him instead of carry him in my arms. Now he's a 36 lb 22 month old and I have chronic neck pain (I wonder why?)

Anyway, I love the pictures of Camilla and I'm so happy for you all.

Hi, delurking from Scotland so probably not much point telling you about slings 'cos our shops are not exactly local for you. Cookies, however I can do. I have a son with an allergy to milk in all its forms so have made cookies for years now with no dairy (and for a long time with no egg either like this one). This is a favourite and is known in our house as "vegan biscuits" - vegan websites are great for dairy free recipes. If it's ok for vegans, it's dairy free.

Melt 60z of dairy free margarine with 1 tablespoon golden syrup. In a bowl mix together 1 cup each of all purpose flour, dessicated coconut, sugar and oats. Pour in the melted marg and syrup together with half a teaspoon of baking soda dissolved in 2 tablespoons hot water. It makes a sticky sludgy sort of mix. Dollop in big spoonfuls onto greased baking sheets and bake at 170 for about 10 to 15 minutes, till they are golden but still soft. WARNING - they spread out a lot and I always have to cut them apart when they come out of the oven. Let them cool for a few minutes on the sheet and then remove them to cool on a rack. They are a great mixture of crispy and chewy. Enjoy!

Hi from New Hampshire!
I have 3 children and have used a basic ring sling for all of them.. I'm small and I had some big babies, so I had no choice but to sling them. I bought mine at The Baby Space, she hand makes them to fit your height.
It takes lots of practice... But was well worth it for me.

Mama's Milk pouch sling. Would it be very frivolous if I mentioned that the red one also looks really good as an accessory to any black sweater/dress?

Hi. I'm not married, I don't have kids, and I don't bake (hopefully someday to all three). Um...I do have the same middle name as you! It's ridiculous how everybody has at least one of my names.

Yay! I passed word verification! I'm not an automated robot after all!

Ummm nothing to say other than "HI".

Like Dee - just saying "hi".

I have never tried the ergo sling, but I had a cheap infantino sling from Target that I used with my youngest until he was about 4 or 5 months and trying to climb out of the thing. It was thick and sturdy and I never had back pain with it. AFter that I moved on to the baby bjorn and used it until he was about 18 months, tall enough to jump up and make me bite my tongue.

I enjoy your posts and pictures of your baby. Congratulations.

I love you too! And you know I don't have a cookie recipe. Sorry. We've been using a padded ring sling as well (Over the Shoulder Baby Holder -- hate the name, love the sling!) so no help there either. With Amelia I used a mei tai and loved it but it's not terribly helpful until the kid can sit up on her own. Sigh.

Delurking to say hey!

Check out a December (I think?) entry on the blog - she is BIG into slings, and even has(d) some for sale. She probably has a ton of tips for ya, too!

Delurking to say: Love your blog, read it every day!!

Jen from the Adirondacks - - Upstate New York

Also delurking to say that Leery Polyp and Not That You Asked also are slingers, I believe. Good luck!!

Well, I've commented before but I've lurked here goes. HI! It's been so amazing to see what God has been doing in your life lately. I feel as if I have been pulled from a dry season in my spiritual walk and life in general lately. The other upside to that? After I let God kick my butt and decided to again be who I know He wants me to be, I think He may have sent someone to walk alongside me in it(if only for a time). A total surprise. I'm turning 26 this year and instead of comparing myself to my mom at this age (she got married at 26 and I used to think that was SO OLD) I'm excited about what God will do--not just in the marital arena.
Cookies? I always like oatmeal chocolate chip--with dark chocolate chunks and a good helping of cinnamon.
Anyhow, it's been wonderful to live vicariously through your triumphs and learn from your pain and joy. Happy way belated birthday by the way!

oh goodness - putting shyness aside to de-lurk. (c: you write beautifully, and your faith has encouraged my own. i first found your blog through my friend (since jr. high!) rach, whose blog was the first i'd ever read. i am still on the near side of marriage and kids, but have enjoyed cooing at the screen as you've posted photos of your beautiful daughter.

no cookie recipes at hand at the moment, but i'll have to dig up a killer brown-sugar shortbread recipe from home.


Delurking here.

I am an odd reader; don't have children, don't particularly bake often, and am not even remotely religious. However, I find your blog a breath of fresh air because of your convictions and your absolute study behind them. I live in Utah, where strong convictions are practically required, but rarely do they come with the study, thought, reflection and acceptance that you express in your writing. I can truely appreciate a person that believes in something so powerfully and can debate and back up that belief. Kudos to you.

On a lighter topic, your family is beautiful and I send my best wishes to a happy and joyful life.


I am a quazi-lurker. SOmetimes I post, but very infrequently. I have to tell you that since I stumbled upon these infertility blogs, it has been such a help in our journey. Thank you for continuing to post since Camilla arrived. I feel like I've gotten to know you and it's nice you haven't dissapeared.

Is it odd that I feel like I've gotten to know you? One of the quandries of internet people.

Hi, I've been lurking for quite a while, I think I found you from a comment you posted on a little pregnant... Anyway, we were pregnant at the same time, and our daughters are now very close in age (Zoe was born Oct. 12), so I've really enjoyed reading your stories about Camilla, especially since we're going through so many of the same things at the same time.

We have a ring sling and a Baby Bjorn. Zoe won't stay in either one for more than 15 or 20 minutes, though she likes the Bjorn a little better. Sorry I'm no help with that.

Thanks for a really delightful blog.


No kids, not married, not religious, but I enjoy reading your blog. What a beautiful family!

(my cookie recipes all call for butter, but you could probably use margarine instead)

I'm Sarah, 29 years old with 2 boys (Aidan and Cohen). I started reading your blog because I also wanted to start a family young (started trying when I was 22) and also had fertility issues. Anyway, I found the basic Snugli (like a Bjorn but WAY cheaper) useful up until about 20 pounds. Great for walks and grocery store and only about $25 at Target. Good luck finding something and delurking!

I've commented once or twice, but usually I lurk. I've never had a sling because I can't figure out how the things work. I have a college education, yet I'm stumped when it comes to positioning a baby in a sling.

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