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Wednesday, July 12, 2006


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Ahhh... the baby name picking...

Here's my abbreviated story: Early in my pregnancy, I said, "What do you think of 'Jonah' for a boy?" "Nope." DH said, "Jonah ran away from God." "But he came back!" I said, "Don't we all run away from God and get brought back?" "hmmm... still... too many stigmas attached to that name." So I just kept mentioning "Jonah" for several months. Then one day DH said, "I like the name Jonah. It's a nice dose of reality..." We agreed more easily on a girl name. So, guess what our boy is named? :-) (and I let DH pick the middle name for me to agree with)

We had one boy name and one girl name picked out when we went to the hospital. Keegan James or Aubree Marguerite. In the labor room, my boyfriend said to me, "What do you think of the name Colby for a boy?". Ten hours later Colby came into the world. lol.

Congrats on the names! (OK, so the boy's name is a work in progress. Still). Girls' names weren't so difficult for us to think of, so naturally we ended up with a boy :). Actually, A. didn't want us using either of his names for a boy, either - maybe it's a familiarity breeding contempt sort of thing? I'm not sure I'd be keen on naming a girl after myself, either (and my middle name would be right out, as it's actually an Irish surname which has now become a boys' first name).

For the "Baby" - I would guess it was just the result of parents taking a while to make up their minds after the baby is born. It takes a while to get names into the system even when they're given at the time of birth, and if the name isn't given right away (though I'm with Miss Manners on being puzzled at the rudeness of having such a close relationship with a fetus and not eventually learning its name) the baby could well end up being assigned an SS# before its name is officially registered. The fact that it happens more to boys than girls could indicate that the trend of having a harder time picking boys' names is a large one.

Oh, and I know I keep mentioning this, but if you really want to waste time with names, try the Baby Name Wizard (if you have Java):

I had hours of unproductive fun watching names rise and fall in favour over the course of the century.

Oh dear...
all this business with names and you didn't even give us a hint??? Sigh.

I'm glad progress has been made though- it is a tough decision to agree upon.

On the baby issue:
As someone already said, yes, sometimes parents do take a while to finalize on a name, and the paperwork needs to be sent in the meantime, hence "baby" or "baby girl/boy"

Another real explanation is babies who are abandoned at the hospital (and less often those who are placed for adoption) often receive the name "baby"

Ah, I love to chat names!

Kre8tiv spelling of names drives me up the wall, too.

I recently met a little Alyvia (Olivia)! Why do people do this?!

You don't have to worry too much about names. My 10-month-old didn't have a name until the day before she was born (she was only two weeks early). Before that, we just couldn't agree. She is Diana (for her great-aunt) Robyn (for her grandad Robert). Yes, I had to go for an alternate spelling, because if it had to be Robin (which I didn't really like), I at least wanted it to be little different.

As for the odds being against having 7 girls and a boy, have you read about Kim at ? It does happen! ;-)

We've had a boy's name picked out since before we got married, but girls' names have always been much harder for us. Therefore, we are of course having twin girls.

Re repeating the name over and over again: you just need to exercise a little patience. Repeating it every 10 minutes over the course of an evening or two isn't enough -- two or three months works much better!

Are you going to share the names, either now or after the baby is born?

We came up with a girl name almost immediately upon finding out I was pregnant in December. Here we are, 5 weeks from the due date, and still no boys' names!!

People have started giving us a hard time about it, as if we're going to walk out of the hospital without naming our baby. Doesn't anyone want to actually look at their child before setting their name in stone anymore? Not that I think naming the kid in advance is bad either, but it'd be nice if people didn't act like we're going to be the worst parents ever because we don't obsess about the name 24/7. :)

Much luck in your search for the perfect name for Pahoehoe!

Will you share with us what names did make the list?? :o)

We have had a much easier time with girls names than with boys too. My son was easy, he got his dad's middle name as his first name and his grandpa's first name as his middle. But I'm pregnant again and there has been debate over this child if it's a boy (although we both think it's a girl, so it may not matter).

By the way, I'm kind of feeling that you're having a girl. It's just the vibe I'm feeling from your blog. :)

I definitely plan on sharing the full name (well, first and middle names) of the baby when he or she is born and named in the fall. But Bryan and I decided a long time ago that we would keep all our name choices secret until we actually used them for our children. Which would include not publishing them on the Internet.

Incidentally, we're not being secretive because we're grumpy - it's just that we've both observed that people are much more likely to express opinions about names in the abstract than about names that are already attached to adorable little babies. And we want to be able to make our name decisions without that pressure.

Wackiest name I ever saw? Rel, whose parents expected the world at large to know that the name is pronounced ar-ee-el (kind of like Ariel, but actually as though the name is R.E.L.) It's downright sadistic of the parents. As my DH says, "you may as well just whack 10 points off her IQ right now."

We feel the exact same way. If you say, "We're thinking of naming the baby 'Melba*,'" people say, "Why on earth would you do that?" But if you say, "This is our baby, Melba," they just smile tensely and say, "What an unusual name." So The Husband and I are keeping mum. We have 2 girls' names and 1 boy's name currently on the short list. (None of these names are "Melba.") As for middle names, we have no idea.

*An actual name in the baby name book.

I am so insanely jealous. I might have onesies, but you have a name.

Actually, I have a name I love (it's relatively uncommon and Biblical and has a wonderful meaning), but all I get from my husband is, "Its okay." He can't find one single boy name he likes and he reads that stupid 10,000 Baby Names book EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT.

So. Jealous.

Our second didn't have any possible names until I was well into labour -- and we didn't make it final until the moment he was born.

When they showed him to me over the curtain (C-section after 3 days labour) I laughed from relief -- and my husband announced, "That's it, his name is Isaac!"

Isaac means 'laughter' in Hebrew, you see. Suits the little giggly guffer to a tee.

I can't believe I'm going to write these names here, but our girls picks are: "Natalie Claire," "Lauren Claire," "Olivia Claire" or "Claire TBD." (my mother's name was Claire)

Our boys picks are: "Ethan Erik," "Blake Erik," or "Owen Erik." Though he doesn't love any of the boys names...

Oh. Also? I hate creative name spelling. It doesn't make your kid unique; it just makes it look like YOU, the parent, don't know how to spell.

I always thought we should take in a list and then look at the baby to see what he/she "looked" like. But I found out later that my husband chose names for each of the kids the second he saw the positive line on the pregnancy test, and somehow, he manages to get them on our list, then somehow, he manages to get me to think it's The Perfect Name as soon as the baby's born. Don't ask me the secret -- I decided I didn't want to know.

With our first, though, we only had 2 boys names and NO girls names, and we didn't know our baby's gender. We were literally driving to the hospital while I was in labor and my husband was still tossing out girl names for me to consider.

God, in His great mercy, gave us a boy.

Now, for our third, it was a really traumatic early delivery, and when our daughter was born, I was just so glad she and I were both alive and safe, and so exhausted, I told my husband to name her whatever he wanted. I do not recommend this. He did pick a name off the "approved" list (one he'd actually decided on almost 8 months earlier), but when my head cleared the next day, I was positive he pikced The Wrong Name. It took quite some time for me to get used to it and I have periodically regretted not using a different name. So I say it's better for baby to go nameless until the next day when mom is feeling up to deciding on a name.

Blessings to you all!

LOL, my husband did the same thing with boy middle names. I provided about 15 that I liked quite well, and he shot them all down. We finally agreed on a name that I wasn't wild about, but heck, it's just the middle name, right?

As it is, we got a girl. Thankfully we'd managed to agree on a name for her without much struggle. But in general we had a much easier time coming up with boy names than girl names. And we also didn't share our name choices for exactly the same reasons as you. Also, although no one intends to do it, there's the phenomenon of "name stealing". Best to keep the names to yourself, I say!

My husband and I agreed on a boy's name, but we fight like crazy over girls' names.

Good thing we're adopting and the babies come named already.

I'm so glad you two have made progress. Two years ago, when we started trying to get pregnant, my husband bought me a huge book of baby names. We went through there and actually agreed on a lot of names. I'll gladly give you some of mine. :o)

... we've actually already been referring to the future potential child as his name already, knowing how dangerous this is. Especially since, after two years, I'm already growing weary of the name. lol

Hey Laura, my daughter's name is Aubree- I have never seen anyone else spell it that way.

With out third child we would not even offer hints of what the baby's name would be. People were too vocal when we were speculatiing on #1 and #2. Though I have to admit I browbeat my BIL into not naming my niece "Mariah Carey Smith." So sometimes outsider's objections are helpful.

It's nice to be mentioned on your blog, if only obliquely. (Have you noticed yet that you spelled "exception" wrong? Unless, of course, you meant to call me an expection, in which case I demand an explanation of what the heck that's supposed to mean...) I saw cute maternity clothes in the mall today and thought of you, but decided it'd be more fun buying clothes for the baby, once she's born. (It's the 13th! So there!) How does it feel to be deemed less cute than an unborn person?

"No one puts Baby in a corner"
Hey, I liked that movie...just a thought. Maybe the whole world is in love with Jennifer Grey??

At least Christofer makes sense, because it's a Greek name, and the ph/f sound is a phi in Greek, which could be rendered either way.

We were lucky, our kids pretty much named themselves. In my first pregnancy we had the hardest time picking out a boys name, and our girls name jumped off the page of the baby book into my husband's heart. Hearing him say it with such enthusiasm (it was a name I hadn't even considered) was so sweet I just agreed to it. Reluctantly, we chose a boys name and headed to the hospital to have the baby. I liked having 2 names set in stone so when the baby was born my husband could announce "it's (name)" instead of "it's a boy, it's a girl.."

We chose not to find out the sex of the baby before hand and I can tell you the two most thrilling moments of my life were hearing my husband say, "It's Isabel!" and then 4 years later, "It's William!"

We didn't share the name choices with anyone beforehand either, and I agree that's the way to go. It makes the announcement to family and friends so much more exciting!

Oh you are so smart NOT to announce the names---total strangers would ask me the names and then feel free to express opinions!! Without fail--every name was dissed by someone!!
By the way, my children's names are Laura Shay ( age 18), Daniel Stewart (17) and John (Jack) Corbett (6). The middle names are family names.
Interestingly enough, my mother HATED all of the names and was adament about it---now she LOVES the names--go figure.

We are not anywhere near pregnant, but my husband already has names picked out and refuses to think of alternates. His beloved names are "Wang" and "Ching". Our last name is Cheung, so ha ha ha, but the next time I say "what about ThisBeautifulName?" and he says "Oh, but WANG would be AWESOME," I will not be responsible for my actions.

I have so tried the perky tone of voice thing--it doesn't work here either.

Have you tried this site:

It has very cool graphics and time related dealies.

I admit the Z inclusion is odd. And as anyone who has seen DIrty Dancing 100 times (hi!) knows, 'Baby' is a GIRL'S name!

Personally, I love Dexter. And you call him Dex. How could he not be cool?

Here's my little piece of advice: once you settle on a name you both love, tell NO ONE else, no matter how near and dear. Especially if they're near and dear, because if they don't like the name, they'll try to talk you out of it, and you'll feel bad. Once the name is attached to an actual, out-in-the-world baby, however, no one will dare criticize your choice.

My husband had a name already picked out for a girl, (Marissa) which he had heard once and really liked. It isn't a common name at all in French (we live in Quebec) although it does sort of ressemble Maryse which is common enough. When I heard the name, I liked it, especially when I looked up the meaning and saw it came from Mary Stella, or Mary - Evening Star... and because it wasn't a common name, (I had never heard it either, only later in an English-speaking area) But we had to wait awhile to use it. And when we did, I changed the i to a y. (Maryssa) I've seen it spelled Marisa too, but in Quebec you have to have 2 s's because one s equals a z sound in French, while two makes an s sound. And some Quebecers STILL pronounce it Mariza. (eek!)

Names have never been easy, because I like a name that has some meaning to it, and I'd love to have a "different" name, but DH is so darn conservative. He shoots most of my names down too. Oh, and of course, names must go with a French last name, but be pronouncable in both English and French (and Spanish as well as a bonus). So names like Duncan (which I really liked) are off-limits.

Anyway, we managed to have a bunch of significant Saints' names (significant to me actually) in spite of DH not being very Catholic and being very conservative and picky.

Oh, and by the way, once we end up with this short list of names agreeable to DH's digestive system, (For the last baby, he did the list by himself since there is no point in me doing a list, I'm usually more open to his names than he mine,... although I may have added a couple of names he hadn't thought of and was agreeable to, onto the list) I'm usually the one who finds one name on the list that I particularly like and I end up somehow convincing him that that one is the correct one, and don't ask me how I do it. (Perhaps it helps that he's the one who came up with it in the first place?)

Our last boy was born December 6 (4 out of 5 of our children are boys and boys' names are harder for us) and since Nicolas was already on DH's list, and baby was born on St Nicks's feastday... I convinced DH that his name should be Nicolas. (By the way, Nicolas with no H is the APPROVED French way to spell it, not creative English spelling, although creative spelling doesn't bother me as long as it is not OVERLY creative). The poor child had been born for almost 2 weeks before we decided on that name.

ALL of our boys' names were in parentheses, so of course we had a boy. Two days later we gave him a name we'd never considered, which is perfect.

We were without a middle name so I marched my husband to Borders and made him stand in the baby name book section until we picked one.

Hey daughter -- I know where you were all weekend, and I'm still impatient for another post. Think of your poor readers! Love you!!!

hi - just stumbled across your blog and am having a blast reading it... i'm 24 weeks pregnant and catholic, so i feel like i've got a lot in common with you.

my DH and i had a blast picking out names - and we actually (against advice) announced the name when we found out we were having a girl. Why, you ask? so that all of our families who were sick of praying for "it" or "peanut" could now call her by name. it's great.

if you still don't have a boys name when you deliver, you could always check who the saint of the day was. i mean, i wouldn't recommend going with something like polycarp, but if you get a simon or a anthony or something, it could be an option. even if you don't like it that much, it's a personal connection to the church - and i betcha it would grow on you!!

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