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  • J.R.R. Tolkien: The Lord of the Rings

    J.R.R. Tolkien: The Lord of the Rings
    It feels silly to recommend the book from which my parents got my name - I'm sort of bound to like it, right? - but if you haven't read this, you have absolutely missed out. Tolkien is simply inimitable, and Middle Earth is his masterpiece. Even disregarding the name thing, I'd be a different person without this book. (*****)

  • C.S. Lewis: The Space Trilogy

    C.S. Lewis: The Space Trilogy
    I don't generally enjoy science fiction or fantasy, but I've read this trilogy (consisting of Out of the Silent Planet, Perelandra, and That Hideous Strength) several times, and I get more out of it every time. Lewis is a master writer and a master thinker, and he does great work here. This is the kind of literature that changes you. (*****)

  • Diane Mott Davidson: Catering to Nobody

    Diane Mott Davidson: Catering to Nobody
    The first of Davidson's eleven-book series of mysteries featuring caterer/detective Goldy Schulz. Not great literature, but thoroughly enjoyable - and filled with mouth-watering descriptions of delectable foodstuffs. Worth reading if you're a mystery buff, VERY worth reading if you also like to eat. (****)

  • Dave Barry: Dave Barry's Greatest Hits

    Dave Barry: Dave Barry's Greatest Hits
    Dave Barry can always, always make me laugh. Which is probably why I own so many of his books, and reread them more often than I'd like to admit. Plus, you know, he really can write. (****)

  • Dorothy L. Sayers: Murder Must Advertise

    Dorothy L. Sayers: Murder Must Advertise
    I recently reread all of the Peter Wimseys (out of order, as is the prerogative of someone to whom they are old friends) and finished up with this one. Sayers' plotting is pure genius and her writing is impeccable. If you like mysteries and you haven't read these, do it pronto! (*****)

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    Michael Card: The Hidden Face of God
    "There in your wilderness, He's waiting for you. Come worship him with your wounds, 'cause He's wounded too."

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Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Eat These Books

I'm a bit of a bookworm.  (Ahem, understatement.)  For whatever reason, I've always preferred fiction to non-fiction.  Perhaps because non-fiction felt like homework?  Our non-fiction bookcase has two entire shelves full of excellent works on theology and philosophy left over from my classes in college, and I haven't read more than a handful of pages out of most of them.  Meanwhile, I'm one of the only people I know who has kept up a continuous habit of novel reading through college and new motherhood.

Recently, though, I haven't read very many novels, because I've discovered a new genre of non-fiction: food writing.  I love food writing.  I want food writing to be my roommate so that we can paint each other's toenails and stay up talking and giggling until 2 am.

I'm always looking for new books to read, and I'm guessing some of you are as well.  Wouldn't it be fun for me to review the books I've read, so you can check them out if you want?  I thought so, too.

Here's what I've read, in the order I read them.

My rating system:
zero stars = skip it
* = only worth reading if you're stuck in an elevator
** = better than a random pick from the library shelves
*** = have the library hold it for you
**** = buy it if it's on clearance
***** = buy it at full price

The Soul of a Chef, by Michael Ruhlman: This was a hand-me-down from my mother-in-law's book club, and I usually skip those.  I almost skipped this book, and that would have been sad, since it is gripping.  As gripping as a book about a cooking exam and two chef-slash-restaurant owners can be, anyway.  Ruhlman's a journalist and he writes like a good one.  Technical details, historical facts, basic biography, conversations and events all blend together to create a book that made me feel like I was having an experience rather than reading information.  At the same time, I learned a lot.  And now I really want to go the French Laundry, except I don't have the million dollars it would take.  ***

Julie and Julia, by Julie Powell: Julie Powell decided to spice up her boring life by cooking every recipe from Julia Child's Mastering the Art of French Cooking.  In one year.  In a tiny apartment kitchen in Queens.  Clearly she is insane, but she did get a book deal out of it, so I guess insanity can pay off.  She blogged about it while it was happening, and wrote the book afterward.  I think I would have loved the blog if I'd been reading along at the time; unfortunately it's easy to get bogged down trying to read through the archives.  As for the book, I would have enjoyed it more if Powell had stuck to talking about the cooking and skipped the politicizing and philosophizing about completely non-cooking-related topics (surprise! our ideologies don't match).  Also, she's happily married to her high-school sweetheart but apparently believes that marrying your high-school sweetheart is provincial and moralistic, and adds a lot of tangential material about her friends' casual affairs in order to prove that she is neither of those things.  That bugged me, for obvious reasons.  Still, it was a fun, quick read, and it kind of made me want to cook my way through a cookbook of my own.  (Not a French one, though.  Blech.)  Also, it made me grateful for the comparative enormity of my own kitchen, and being grateful for what you have is always a good thing.  **

Garlic and Sapphires, by Ruth Reichl: This is the story of Reichl's stint as the restaurant critic at the New York Times.  It is true - fairly true, anyway, as I get the idea that the best you get from Reichl in non-fiction is "fairly" true - but it reads like a novel.  This is not a bad thing; I really enjoyed it.  She's an excellent writer and she has crafted a scintillating work from her own experiences.  While working for the Times she used a number of false identities to avoid being recognized in restaurants, and she manages to make the use of the identities and the process of reviewing restaurants seem like real drama.  That takes skill.  Highly enjoyable.  ****

The Making of a Chef, by Michael Ruhlman: Ruhlman started his series on chefs by enrolling at the Culinary Institute of America, and this book is about his time there.  I have a feeling not many people could make lessons on basic knife skills and the proper preparation of brown veal stock into a page-turner, but Ruhlman does it.  I found the book surprisingly fascinating.  Just as with The Soul of a Chef, I learned a heck of a lot.  I passed the book on to my sister, who is considering going to culinary school.  The book would probably be a bore for anyone who's not at all interested in cooking or food, but anyone who is should check it out.  ***

Cooking for Mr. Latte, by Amanda Hesser: Ariella recommended this book on her blog ages ago, and I finally got around to reading it.  Subtitled "A Food Lover's Courtship, with Recipes," it's the story of how Hesser and her husband met and got married.  I was expecting a chapter-by-chapter narrative but it's actually a series of stand-alone pieces that Hesser originally wrote as a newspaper column.  I probably would have enjoyed it a bit more as a novel-like piece, but I still liked it.  I tend to get attached to narrators and it didn't take me long to get attached to her, so even though she is a bit pretentious, I was still rooting for her the whole time.  Unfortunately, Hesser is not as good as Reichl at making ordinary life events seem extraordinary, and on their own the essays are a little lackluster.  Fortunately, the book also has recipes, a good number of which made me want to hop to the kitchen right that minute.  Hesser's recipe for peach tart impelled me to put peaches on my grocery list immediately, and I'd rather not admit how many times I've made it since then.  Yum.  The recipes save this book.  ****

Kitchen Confidential, by Anthony Bourdain: No one can claim that Anthony Bourdain doesn't have the requisite experience to write knowledgeably about life as a chef.  He's also a passably good writer, and this book is definitely a captivating glimpse behind the scenes of the restaurant world.  Even so, I didn't enjoy it.  It was just too gritty for me.  I understand that in order to create an unsavory reality for your readers you're going to have to include some unsavory details, but Bourdain goes overboard, in my opinion, and appears to get a voyeuristic pleasure out of doing so.  I'm shuddering just remembering a couple of scenes from the book.  Also, the man has either an enormous ego or a wicked inferiority complex, because the tone of the book is inexcusably arrogant.  On the other hand, I did finish it, and I'm always willing to stop in the middle of a book if it doesn't hold my attention, so that's something.  *

Tender at the Bone and Comfort Me with Apples, by Ruth Reichl: These are billed as memoirs, and I usually find memoirs boring, but Reichl's got a way with the memoir, and these read like novels.  The first one covers her life until after college, the second is about her adulthood.  In Tender at the Bone, Reichl writes about her development and the part food played throughout, without making the food theme seem affected.  She offers amusing and poignant anecdotes, like the one about her mother accidentally giving food poisoning to a hundred charity-luncheon attendees.  I enjoyed it and expected the same sort of fare from Comfort Me with Apples and so was unpleasantly surprised to find that, a few chapters into the book, Reichl is matter-of-factly describing her first extramarital affair.  The fact that her husband is having affairs as well, and the fact that they eventually divorce amicably, did not make me enjoy reading about it any better.  The book is still well-written, the stuff about food is top-notch, and there are some heartwarming moments, but the whole thing was soured for me.  I'd definitely recommend the first book, but the second only with reservations.  Tender at the Bone: ***  Comfort Me with Apples: **

The Tummy Trilogy, by Calvin Trillin:  This is a collection of three of Trillin's books: American Fried; Alice, Let's Eat; and Third Helpings.  It's basically Trillin going on about the food he likes, but that doesn't make it sound as interesting as it is.  I doubt there's any way to make it sound as interesting as it is, actually.  Trillin writes like Dave Barry toned down a couple notches, and I love me some Dave Barry, so I was bound to love this book.  I almost didn't check it out because it looked boring, and I shudder to think what I would have missed.  Anyway, like I said, it's pretty much indescribable.  Read it your own self.  *****

Thursday, September 20, 2007

Looking Forward

People have started asking us if we plan to have more children.  The first person to ask me the question seriously startled me.  I glanced around to make sure she wasn't talking to someone else, because me?  I still have a little tiny baby!  Look at her, she's an infant!  Not possibly old enough to have a younger sibling!

Reality check.  The "infant" is closing in on one year old, is dedicating herself full-time to the important tasks of learning to walk and talk, and at 22 pounds weighs more now than her 15-month-old cousin.  It's not ridiculous for other people to wonder if want to have more kids.

The short and absolutely true answer is that of course we want to have more kids.  We're open to the idea of as many as God chooses to send us, and we'd be thrilled if another baby came along in the not-insanely-distant future.  This is what we generally tell people when they ask if we're trying for number two.

The details of the situation are more complex, as details tend to be.  For starters, ecological breastfeeding is doing its job with a vengeance around here.  In my current cycle-less state, we could be "trying" until the cows come home and there'd be about as much chance of my becoming pregnant as there is of Camilla sleeping through the night before her birthday.  (Snort.) 

But even after my cycle comes back, we don't have an Ideal Plan for More Children, When and How Many.  Considering that according to our original Ideal Plan our first child would be about three years old right now, we've decided that Plans are useless to us in this area.  We have no illusion of control over how new members of our family are created, since Creation is decidedly not our domain.

I find myself thinking and speaking of our next child in terms of "if" rather than "when."  I've got no picture in my mind of whether, let alone at what time, our next child might come along.  Some people might call this pessimism, or being shy of hope, but I don't think that's it.  I think it's a result of an important lesson that waiting for Camilla taught me: that God's got a plan in mind for us and that it's best if He decides what the components of that plan are.

I earnestly hope for more children and I pray for them every day, of course.  But right now I feel okay with the fact that whether we have more children is not up to me.   My stubborn refusal to let go of my idea that what I needed and what I wanted were one and the same, along with my mistaken conviction that I deserved the thing I wanted, made finding peace a lot harder than it could have been the first time around.  I'd like to avoid that in the future.  I've found that the lifelong journey toward holiness is greatly impeded by the act of digging in one's heels in rebellion against the One from whom all holiness comes.

Besides that, there's the fact that we do have Camilla.  Although I bore her I did not make her; He did, and He gave her to us to have and to raise and to love.  This is entirely miraculous, and nothing short of mind-blowing.  Expecting to have another baby as a matter of course feels rather like expecting lightning to strike the same place two days running.

Being childless was a trial.  Being second-child-less would no doubt make me sad, but if we ultimately have no more children will I stand there on judgment day and say, "Lord, you cheated us"?

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I think not.

Monday, September 10, 2007

Parenthood Bites

I can't remember if I've mentioned this before, but my baby book notes that I got my first tooth at 4.5 months.  Right around that age Camilla started chewing on her fists and drooling like crazy, so we thought teeth might be on their way.  We started blaming every grumpy day and every bad night on the forthcoming teeth.  The joke was on us when the first one didn't show up for another three months.

All first-time parents do this, right?  Always thinking the baby is teething when she's not?  Please tell me all first-time parents do this.

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Please tell me other parents also bury their kids in laundry.

I was naive.  Drool is not a sign that your child might be teething.  Drool is a sign that your child is young and lacks the coordination to keep her own saliva inside her own mouth.

Thinking seriously about throwing yourself off a nearby bridge because your child has not slept for more than ninety minutes at a time in the past ten days, thereby ensuring that YOU have not slept for more than ninety minutes at a time in the past ten days?  THAT is a sign that your child might be teething.

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Those little white things are cute, but won by pain.  Lots and lots of pain, for everyone in the house.

I figured maybe it would get easier as she got older.  But nay: tooths 1 and 2 were bad, tooths 3, 4, and 5 were worse, and tooth 6 nearly killed us.  I am quaking at the thought of 7, 8, 9, 10, etc.  Maybe we can just skip those.  Maybe Milla would prefer to keep them in her jaw and wear dentures instead.  I've heard they're much more convenient for cleaning.

Tooths 3 through 6 were also bad news because I'm nursing.  There is no way to express with words how much fun it is to nurse a person who is test-driving (test-biting?) newly-cut chompers on both her upper and lower jaws.  FUN.  Really, really fun.

Sleep deprivation and sore nipples are a killer combination.

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What did I do?  Let's PLAY!

I don't know what the big deal is.  I can remember cutting teeth and not feeling like I had to wake up my parents every hour or two to let them know how unhappy I was about it.  And okay, they were my twelve-year molars, but the principle still stands.  She could suck it up if she wanted to.  She just chooses not to.

Oh, she so owes me.  She'd better not go to college on the other side of the country and break my heart, is all I have to say about that.

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Being half a continent away from that grin would definitely kill me.

Saturday, September 08, 2007

Gets Me Through Some Long Afternoons, Too

This book review by Julia (who has a beautiful new baby girl, and also a problem I can really relate to) has me thinking about how helpful and wonderful the Internet in general - and blogworld in particular - are for me.  Julia is reviewing a book about different baby products; she mentions that she was disappointed that the book, which claims its products are "mom-tested," doesn't give her nearly the kind of information she gets from the commenters on her blog when she asks.

I can think of several products that I wouldn't have known about, or known to get instead of the more common alternatives, if it hadn't been for blogs and my own blog readers.  For instance:

- I knew to get the Ergo instead of a Baby Bjorn.  I first read about the Ergo at Moxie's, then I saw that some other bloggers had pictures of themselves using it, then I checked out Epinions and was sold.  And I am so glad I did, because otherwise I probably would have just gotten the Bjorn, and I've recently had the chance to recommend the Ergo to a couple different friends who were tired of their Bjorns killing their backs all the time.

- I got Lilypadz, thanks again to Moxie, on whose site I was first clued in to their existence.  I don't think I'm overstating it when I say that there is not another single product I have ever owned which has been more of a lifesaver to me, in a very immediate and physical way.

- We skipped the standard carseat-stroller travel system.  You guys warned me that those strollers are bulky, and the last thing I wanted was a stroller that was just going to be a pain in my neck, so we obtained a carseat a la carte and when Milla was born we didn't yet own any wheely baby-moving devices.  I figured we could get a stroller frame for the carseat if/when we needed it, then move up to a lightweight stroller later.  As it turned out, Milla hated her carseat/carrier so much that we switched her to the convertible at four months, and she didn't end up being willing to sit in the stroller that we did buy until she was seven or eight months old, so a travel system would have been a hundred different kinds of useless with our baby.  Also a colossal waste of money.  The Maclaren is not the cheapest stroller out there, but we love it, and it is definitely cheaper than a travel system plus whatever we would have bought to replace it.

- We got a Kangaroo Korner adjustable pouch, which I wouldn't have known about if Amy hadn't told me how much she loves hers.  Slings, pouches, and carriers are definitely a matter of personal taste, but whenever I talk to someone who's reluctant to get a sling because they think they're uncomfortable or too hard to use, I recommend this pouch.  With our sling-loving baby, it was perfect for us because it's easy to get the baby in and out, and it distributes the weight nicely across the back, for which both Bryan and I were very grateful.  In fact, I'm so grateful to Amy for recommending the pouch that I kind of want to send her cookies or something.

I'm sure I'm forgetting some things here, but just the stuff I've listed has been valuable enough to us during this first year of Camilla's life to make the nine bucks a month we pay to Typepad totally worth it. 

And then there are the intangible benefits of life plugged in to blogworld, most notably the really awesome support.  When my three-week-old baby starting wailing her way through every evening, you guys were there to commiserate, to offer hope that it would end eventually, and to assure me that I wasn't a bad mother if I sometimes sat down and rocked the baby rather than doing the endless exhausting pacing, even if it did make her cry a little more.  And even though for the most part these past eleven months have been fairly easy on me - I didn't have postpartum depression, or breastfeeding woes, or any big baby-related hurdles other than the fussiness - during the rougher spots it's been a huge consolation to me knowing that I've got a place to go where dozens of people will take the time to say, "Hey, you're doing a great job" or "Wow, that's a cute baby."  I also know that when I do encounter my next hurdle, there'll be someone who can offer a suggestion or share personal experience or point me to a website with a wealth of information my grandmother could only have dreamed about. 

Navigating motherhood without the assistance of the Internet?  I certainly wouldn't want to try it.